When you first wake up in the morning, how do you feel?
Tired? Well-rested? Energized? Lethargic?
Your answer to this question may vary on a daily basis based on what you did the day before, whether you’re waking up with an alarm, your plans for the day, the season, or your general outlook on life!
If you think about it, your morning habits can set the foundation for a well-organized, productive day, or they can lead to you feeling rushed, stressed, and out of sorts, all before 7AM.
This is why so many productivity and personal development experts encourage us to design a morning routine that enables us to start the day with the right tone or attitude.
You can start the day with exercise, yoga, or other physical activity, or make space for prayer, meditation, or other spiritual practices. Some people love to write as soon as they wake up, while others decide to dance around to get their blood flowing. You may choose to read a favorite book, or, like many of us, pick up your phone and take a look at social media.
As you can imagine, your answer to the question, “How do you like to start your day?” reveals a lot about you, your goals, and your approach to life.
Do you prioritize your hopes and dreams first thing in the morning, or do you wait until the last possible minute to roll out of bed? Do you rush around trying to get your kids dressed before school, or do you have time for a cup of coffee or tea?
Even if you don’t have the best habits in the morning, you can probably imagine your dream routine instead!
For this reason, “How do you like to start your day?” is a great way to engage a friend, acquaintance, or coworker in an interesting conversation.
Asking Thoughtful Questions to Spark Conversation
Because there are so many possible situations where you’ll find yourself making small talk, not every question is one-sized fits all.
Since “How do you like to start your day?” is a little personal, you’d be less likely to ask a stranger about their morning routine.
There are other questions I’d suggest trying first, such as “Tell me about yourself” and “What brings you here?” These very open-ended questions allow the other person to guide the conversation with as much or as little detail as they want.
But if you’re making coffee in the office pantry, you may be curious about what your coworker likes to do in the morning to have a productive work day. You might even learn a few tips from his or her response!
If you’re constantly tweaking your morning routine like I am, you might be interested in hearing what your friends and acquaintances have to say about their habits. You can brainstorm solutions and get good insight.
Or if you’re interested in hearing how your friend makes time to go to the gym on a regular schedule, write a blog, take photographs, or create art, you might ask about their morning to see how they prioritize their day.
Maybe you’re a busy parent who wants to know if your acquaintance has any suggestions on how to have a smoother morning.
Because the question “How do you like to start your day?” allows the other person to share what’s important to them, it’s likely to lead to a thoughtful, interactive conversation where you swap ideas and share stories.
In addition, since so many of us have aspirational goals about our mornings, you might get some motivation or an accountability partner if you need to change your habits!
Questions that Keep People Talking
In my experience teaching hundreds of conversation questions over the years, I’ve realized that talking about people love talking about their daily habits.
Because we personally repeat our same routines, they might not seem that interesting at first glance, but most people love to hear how things work in other parts of the world.
After all, breakfast options, exercise habits, and commutes vary widely among countries and cultures – and even regions!
A simple question like “How do you like to start your day?” can tell you a lot about another person’s personality and culture and lead to a more in-depth conversation.
You can also ask a variation on this question:
- How do you prefer to start your day?
- How do you start your mornings?
- How do you like to end your day?
Based on the person’s response, you’ll be able to ask even more questions to keep the conversation going.
Remember, when you focus on the other person’s answer and ask questions based on what you heard, you are seen as a good listener and a great conversationalist. People love to feel like you understand and appreciate what’s important to them.
Because this question also helps you find things in common, it can help you connect in conversation by finding common ground or sharing tips on healthy diets, productivity apps, or local gyms or yoga studios.
Get more ideas on how to create a strong answer to this question by watching the full-length video lesson above.
So now it’s your turn! After watching the video, please leave a comment below and answer the question:
How do you like to start your day?
For more suggestions on neutral topics that can help get a conversation started, please check out my free guide: 17 Easy Ways to Make More Interesting Small Talk.
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